Introduction

As part of male gender studies we’ll explore how and why men were conditioned (socialized) to serve what is now an outmoded societal model. We’ll examine the resulting negative impacts, both for men, their families and communities. Once men understand the consequences of our socialising, we can make positive changes without self blame or guilt and our lives can change drastically.

These steps may help you expand your consciousness as they did mine. If this approach appeals to you then I invite you to dive in and begin the work; the rewards are huge! I know this from both my own experience and reports from the men I’ve worked and learned with.

Benefits

One of the main reasons men are learning to change is that of improved relationships with their partners, their children and their workmates.
As men learn emotional competencies they are more sought after as companions and confidents; attracting quality friends because they are more authentic and compassionate. Numerous studies show that the happiest people are those with the best relationships. Usually this requires good emotional competencies which form the basis of good partnership skills. Above all, these people are happy with themselves. I’ve certainly found this to be true for my self.

All positive change requires a shift in personal consciousness first. I define consciousness as an awareness and congruency occurring across the five aspects that comprise a human being; namely our physical, mental, emotional, energetic and spiritual layers. Becoming more conscious as men, means that we are less influenced by our unconscious parts. The unconscious is responsible for many of the choices humans make. Literally we are not in charge; we are not running our own show. The unconscious needs to be factored in because it can destroy all the good we do. (Bill Clinton Syndrome)

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